Sometimes a steady gaze is enough

Years later, as he recounted the story to me, I saw what happened that day in a completely different light. Andrew and I were grad school classmates, part of a small group of executives earning our Masters at a prestigious university. We had two difficult years ahead of us. From negotiation to leadership, onerously long…

Finding the grownups

What I didn’t expect was the backlash from my liberal friends. The expectation that I would be as outraged as they were was palpable. Oh honey, I wanted to say, I was done with outrage years ago. Allow me to explain. The recent election has seemed to further divide America instead of uniting us. As…

Living the life you’re in

Not all of us experience the dramatic moments that spur life-changing realizations. We don’t find our spouse in bed with someone else and realize, suddenly, what a dog he is. We don’t have a heart attack and quit our job because we see—in a blinding flash of pain–it is, literally, killing us. Instead, we find…

Giving thanks through gritted teeth

This post is for those of you feeling like you might just be from the island of misfit toys this Thanksgiving. If you’ve never felt this way during the start of the holiday season, all the more reason to give thanks. And if you’re feeling that way this holiday season, a friendly reminder from little…

Make room

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the trials and tribulations of the past several years, it’s that life will bring you what you make room for. And will meet you where you are. We are all responsible for the energy we bring to—you name it—a dinner table, a party, a meeting, life. I think…

Let’s be still

I was probably all of six years old, crying, as my mother packed her suitcase. She was going to her uncle’s funeral and leaving me home for a few days. I cried and begged to go, not so much because the funeral interested me but because I wanted my mother. I wanted permanence. Her presence,…

So not like a boss

I often joke with my sons about things we do: “Owned that treadmill today, boys. Like a boss.” “Way to clean up your room—like a boss.” For any of you unfamiliar with the phrase, it means you pegged it. Whatever you’ve just done, you took charge and made it happen. All jesting aside, this week…