Be kind to the creative in your life

We’re weird. Be nice to us anyway. The writers, artists, musicians, engineers and style mavens in your life. We know we’re weird. And we know you know it. Anna Quindlen, one of my favorite writers, talks of the inevitability of having second-generation writers in her family. She said her kids thought being an author was…

Brave enough to break

The determination in her face was obvious. “I will bend, but I will not break,” she said. And with that, she burst into tears. As I hugged her, I said, “It’s ok. You can break. In fact, I think you need to.” She looked at me in disbelief. “You never broke. Look at you. You’re…

Do you see that naked emperor?

The emperor has no clothes, people. Are you with me? Or are you one of those people on LinkedIn who has thousands of connections, few of whom you really know anything about? I try to stay relevant. But a recent mishap makes me wonder why many of us are not more persnickety about our online…

Not born to box

I have a friend whose favorite saying is, “Checked off that box.”  She said this when her son finished his required three years of piano lessons. When the family took the African safari they’d talked about for years. Whenever she sends signed paperwork in at the beginning of each school year. She loves checking the…

Focus on the 20. No apology necessary.

When I was younger, the 80/20 rule always stymied me. For those unfamiliar, the 80/20 rule, or Pareto Principle, suggests that a small percentage (you guessed it—20) of your effort brings most of your results, while your biggest time drains usually result in a much smaller part of your achievement. I struggled with this concept…

‘Tis the season

As the first holiday cards appear in my mailbox, I greet them with a mix of delight and trepidation. So many photos of happy, smiling faces. So much good cheer. So much oversharing. Yes. Oversharing. And selective sharing. I am reminded of the year we received a holiday letter that described, in great detail, a…