Some of the best presents come in wrapping we are not sure is for us.
If we have asked for a shiny diamond in a Tiffany’s blue box with a white ribbon, that is probably what we look for under the tree, in the stocking, on our pillow.
So, if what we see there is a large box with bright wrap, sans bow, our initial reaction might be disappointment. This is not the diamond I asked for, we think.
We might be tempted to return the gift without opening it, stick it in a closet, open it and sigh disappointedly.
Some of us, though, might be open to the surprise that awaits us.
Hmmm, we wonder. Could this be a diamond in a very large box? Or is it something different? Maybe something just as desirable?
Or even better?
I find the present analogy apropos as I talk with my friends. Those that are dating and so sure they know exactly what they want and what it should look like. And if it does not come in the Tiffany’s box with the right white ribbon, they do not recognize it. Put another way, he must be six feet tall, make a certain amount, love dogs and her cooking, travel extensively, order the right wine, golf within a certain handicap.
Some do the same with their children. They assume a child with a certain intelligence, no learning disabilities, nonexistent behavioral issues, an aptitude for the violin, a less than six-minute mile. When the “wrapping” does not look like this vision, they seem stymied, wondering if babies were switched in the nursery.
I have learned, in life, sometimes we get what we need rather than what we want. And it comes in packaging we would neither have recognized nor asked for in a million years.
And sometimes, part of our journey means we have to decide whether to take a risk on unfamiliar wrapping. Occasionally, we find a diamond inside more beautiful than the one we imagined. Other times, we realize we have unwrapped a present not made for us. Or one that will require us to change to be able to accept it, as in the case of a child with special needs.
Sometimes the point is not the present itself, but the learning we go through as we decide to risk or not, to open or not, to keep or to return.
“I count as blessings things I could have benefited from, even if I neglected to utilize them. A gift is still a gift, even if left wrapped and unopened.” –Jarod Kintz, Xazaqazax
Wishing you wisdom, friends, as you decide on the gifts meant for you.