Shiny and new

Man, this is hard to admit. But it’s oh so true. I want to remain shiny and new. In love, at least. New love–the kind where the other person’s heart skips a beat when they see you. And yours when you see them. Who doesn’t love that feeling, right? It’s not that I don’t love…

Cue handsome rider on white horse

Ok, so maybe his white horse was a BMW. But the effect was somewhat the same. If you follow my blog, you’ve heard me wax poetic about how independent I am. How I was raised to be self-sufficient. How I don’t need a man to complete my life. I did not lie. All true. I…

Gains and losses

I don’t often indulge in regrets. I try to live in the here and now because looking too far backward or forward wastes time and changes little. The further you get from a finalized divorce agreement, the happier you are supposed to be. I am. Happier than I was. Relieved. And yet, still disappointed and…

Failure’s alter ego

She spoke dismissively of his “failed marriage.” Ugh. Bite your tongue, I told myself. The lecture will fall on deaf ears. It’s a free country. Blah, blah, blah. I still had to count to 20 before I spoke. My problem? I take issue with the term “failed marriage.” Seems to me, any marriage that ends…

Have faith. Be smart. One does not preclude the other.

I felt the impact and truth of what I was saying in my bones—literally. I felt the force of my conviction physically, and it surprised me. My mother lay dying in a hospital bed. She was still well enough to hold conversations and was worrying about my financial situation. I was married at the time…

Friends I used to know

“It’s a life changer.” I heard this phrase from several divorced friends when they found out I was getting divorced. On the surface, it sounds so obvious. Of course it’s a life changer. But they meant it at so many levels. The first level is obviously a change in marital and romantic status. Along with…

I depend on me

I’m not a big American football girl. Sure, I’ll watch if the home team is playing and it’s an exciting game but I can take it or leave it. So when I tuned into the Super Bowl last Sunday, it was for the halftime show and the commercials, trust me. Beyonce did not disappoint. That…