Meet your cruise director

BaileyWell, my cruise director, at least.

In true Julie McCoy fashion, this girl makes sure I mix and mingle each and every day. Sick, grumpy, tired—no matter. I will be mixing it up with humanity at large, thanks to her.

In case you’ve not met Julie McCoy, aka Bailey, a brief history. And in case you don’t know who Julie McCoy is, she was a character on the popular US TV show in the 1970s and ‘80s, “The Love Boat”. She was the dimpled, cheery, all-American cruise director who fixed up lonely singles with their perfect match, helped the elderly discover new youth and bubbled her way through each episode. Never mind that it has since come to light that she developed a cocaine addiction while working on the show, which may have accounted for a teensy percentage of that bubbling. But I digress.

Back to Bailey. Who does not, I assure you, do cocaine. Ever. She knows that is against house rules.

Bailey is the dog we rescued a couple of Christmases ago. Since then, she has rescued my boys and me as much as we’ve rescued her. Truly. She came on the heels of my divorce and I feel closer to her than to some of my human friends. She gets me. And I get her. Neuroses and all.

I used to know my neighbors. Really. I’d see them at block parties and chat ever so briefly as I worked in the yard.

I thought I knew them.

Bailey changed that.

Now, I know so much more.

The “why” is simple. We cannot leave the house without being accosted by humanity in all forms. The cheeky little cuties next door, still in single digits, stop their baseball game to run over and hug Bailey. Delighted shouts of “Baiwee” ring through the air, as if she is some rock star come to town.Bailey and Marcos

They tell her to sit and bring her sticks galore to chew. Proclamations of love, particularly from the female cutie in her tutu, abound. Bailey wags and acquiesces to their love, happy to be amongst tiny humans.

She drags me down the driveway of our older neighbors. It is an obligatory stop in which she checks their yard for fox scent, expects a butt scratch from Don, contemplates digging up Marilyn’s newly planted flowers. They smile and shower her with attention. She gives me the eye as if to say, “See? Peeps. Yep. I’ve got them.”

As we trot down the street, she gives some a full body wag, stopping to sniff and greet. It is then that I find out the fox had babies under a neighbor’s deck. That the house down the street sold. Who is in the hospital, whose grandkids are doing what, where the next vacation is planned.

At the end of our walk, I let her stay outside for a bit to cool down. It is then that her elderly buddy from next door sneaks her some treats. Every time the vet tells me she cannot gain more weight, I am stymied, given the healthy diet I feed her and the exercise she gets. But then I remember Wayne through the back window, feeding her at least half a dozen large milkbones. His dog died years ago and Bailey seems to fill a small hole in his heart. He is a softie, even though he’d rather no one know it.

And it is not just old friends we see. That was not enough for Ms. Bailey. We had to expand our horizons.

We’ve met new friends.

As Bailey befriended Eloise, the purebred a block over, I befriended her owner, Mary Ellen. Over coffee, Mary Ellen regaled me with tales of her time as a temp for Roone Arledge (who liked to call her “Girl” and showed her how to make his 4 p.m. white wine spritzer while shuffling around the office in his slippers). Her stories made me break into peals of laughter. She is Mary Tyler Moore without the TV show.

She told me of her long-distance marriage, her struggles with ageism in a youth-oriented marketing culture, her house in Cape Cod.

I just love seeing Mary Ellen. And would never have known her if not for Bailey’s unbridled enthusiasm.

Ed is Ginger’s owner. He and I exchange pleasantries about his travels, our lawns, his grandkids’ visits. He gives me a friendly honk of the horn whenever he drives by and I’m in the yard. Bailey and Ginger love to pounce and play while we talk. And I love to listen to Ed’s southern drawl. He and his wife are the type of people who will always have a glass of lemonade or sweet tea at the ready for a good convo on the porch.

Bailey Darth Vader 2I’ve met wonderful people at the vet, the boarder’s, and even turnpike rest stops. (That last one is kind of dicey but Bailey seems to be a good judge of character. Plus, she is fierce. No shady characters need apply. I mean, just look what she is doing to Darth Vader in the photo. “Can I eat him, Mom? Please?” She has us covered.)

I have always been a chatter, but Bailey has brought a richness to my life. I would not walk around the neighborhood without her prompting. And with the walking comes mingling.

I can see why lonely people get dogs. Not only is a dog company but your fellow human beings can’t resist puppy dog eyes, a wagging tail.

And sometimes they also cannot resist the very comforting, connecting human conversation that comes as a fringe benefit.

Courtesy of their furry cruise director.

We should all be so lucky.

This is Mrs. Baiwee, signing out for a walk around the neighborhood. There is work to be done, people.



31 Comments Add yours

  1. Dale says:

    Boy, do I ever know where you are coming from… Zeke has been so much to me. He was there in those first few months after Mick’s death and has the same powers of attraction as Bailey does! Sweet!

    1. candidkay says:

      I mean It when I say they are our furry angels :-).

      1. Dale says:

        They are indeed!

  2. cindy says:

    Dogs are the best!!

  3. dray0308 says:

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  4. Aunt Beulah says:

    Well, thanks, Kay; you made me reconsider my stance against getting another dog, drat it! Every word you wrote rang true, especially “And sometimes they also cannot resist the very comforting, connecting human conversation that comes as a fringe benefit.” The truth is, I can no longer take the heartbreak — the dog’s and mine — when we have to leave it in a kennel or a friend while we travel; yet we can’t travel as often and as long as we do and easily take a dog with us. It’s a puzzlement.

    1. candidkay says:

      Ah, you’re a true softie like me then. I didn’t want another dog because my heart breaks when it’s gone. Crazy, eh? But you’re not alone:). And hearts are meant to break and heal, I guess.

  5. Roy McCarthy says:

    I regard most dogs with antipathy, and the feeling is mutual. I don’t ‘get’ how a big man can be happy walking around with a tiny dog on a lead, as an example. And I seem to be the jogger that every dog sees as an enemy to kill if possible. But I hope I’m not blind to the real pleasure and companionship people can find in a good dog. Nice post Kristine.

  6. Great post. Dogs are truly rock stars.

  7. Bailey is awesome and I think it’s great that you’ve gotten to know your neighbors through him. Living on a street with neighbors who actually communicate on a daily basis is a gift. Treasure it. 🙂

  8. Amy says:

    Love this! 🙂 With Bailey along, it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood! (And I’ve always wanted to have a neighbor just like you.) xo

    1. candidkay says:

      Oh, Amy, wouldn’t that be great? We’d have such great fun and I’d probably garden more:).

  9. KM Huber says:

    My beagle, Cooper, and I toured the “wilds of Waverly,” a local park every day. Like your Bailey, the decision to go was never up for discussion. Cooper could get quite close to wildlife, including geese, without anyone fussing. He seemed to assure them my presence was also all right. I miss him but your lovely post brought back many a morning at Waverly. Thanks, Kay.

  10. heyjude6119 says:

    I have been fighting the urge to get a dog. This isn’t helping. lol
    My husband isn’t a dog lover but I know he’d come around. This was beautiful and so well written. I love Bailey and I haven’t even met her yet. Hope to hear more about her.

  11. I think we can bond through animals because their unconditional love and affection rubs off on us just enough to open our hearts to the people around us. Your Bailey is a beautiful girl.

  12. I love this post, Kay. And Bailey is lovely.

  13. Colleen says:

    It is bittersweet when you write about the neighborhood. It makes me miss it and all the neighbors so much. We have a dog now too and even though little 12 pound Pipi would be terrified of Bailey’s size, I think they would eventually become fast friends! Miss you!

    1. candidkay says:

      We miss you, Colleen! Hoping you’ve made some fast friends in your new digs. But miss our hats!

  14. Strangely enough, this post reminded me of walks as a child with my grandmother. she would routinely stop and chat, and invite herself in for cups of tea or play cards, and we would take hours to do the morning-walk routine. These days people are often too busy to stop and chat or not at home in the first place.

    1. candidkay says:

      She sounds like my dad! He was a chatter too. Errands with him were rarely quick because he chatted with everyone. And I agree with you, we need to slow down. I think Europeans have it all over us in this category!

  15. What a doll. I miss having a dog so much it hurts sometimes. I can’t wait until we can finally move somewhere pet-friendly and I can have a wagging tail at my side again.

    1. candidkay says:

      Wishing you speed on that! That wagging tail is worth months of therapy and umpteen hugs:).

  16. She’s gorgeous, no wonder she’s a rock star, but I know exactly what you mean – we’ve met so many people since we got our dog.

    1. candidkay says:

      Aw, thank you, Andrea. I might be ever so slightly biased in that gorgeous dept. Glad you are too:).

  17. Bailey could be twins with our rescue Sadie. Same cute ears and adorable white patch. And like all good dogs, our Sadie has rescued us, just as much as we rescued her.

  18. markbialczak says:

    Bailey is a beauty, Kay. Social director, indeed. 🙂 Lucky neighborhood.

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